BEYOND THE COMMITMENT OF TIME AND THE COMMITMENT TO CONFIDENTIALITY MENTIONED ABOVE, WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE A STEPHEN MINISTER?
Not everybody is suited to this calling. Applicants must fill out an application and be interviewed to determine whether this is the right fit for them or not.
It goes without saying that nobody is perfect, but there are some core qualities which must be present: The person must be a Christian, have the ability to keep confidences, be able to relate to others non-judgmentally, be committed to giving the time necessary for training and service and be willing and able to participate faithfully in supervision.
Expanding this a bit…here is a broader listing of what Stephen Ministry would call “desirable qualities” for those aspiring to be Stephen Ministers:
PERSONALITY: Shows humility; is tolerant, accepting, forgiving; shows positive regard for people; is reliable, dependable, trustworthy; makes decisions and follows through with tasks and responsibilities; shows emotional stability, is teachable, trainable and accepting of supervision.
SPIRITUALITY: Understands faith as a relationship with Jesus and a way of life; is currently not experiencing a major spiritual crisis; has a close and growing relationship with God indicated by regular worship, Bible study, and personal prayer; has a heart and vision for servant ministry.
RELATIONAL ABILITY: Shows ability to relate to and work with diverse types of people, is comfortable meeting people and helping them feel comfortable; is welcoming and hospitable; expresses feelings in an honest and caring way; deals appropriately with confidential information.
MOTIVATION: Shows a willingness to work hard and has an attitude that says, “I’m willing to do whatever it takes”; is greatly excited about and keenly interested in Stephen Ministry; has a deep desire to serve others through Stephen Ministry.
APPLICATION? ISN’T THAT A BIT UNUSUAL FOR A VOLUNTEER PROGRAM RUN BY THE CHURCH?
Well, yes….that may be true, but Stephen Ministries of St Louis has had significant experience with situations where congregations did not conduct this somewhat elaborate selection process and the result is not always good.
It is really all about “fit” and we believe the applicants would want to know before beginning the journey whether this is, indeed, right for them…so it is a two way process of understanding what it takes and whether a person is likely to be comfortable with the Stephen calling and its demands.
GSLC’S CURRENT ACTIVE STEPHEN MINISTER ROSTER INCLUDES THESE PEOPLE:
Pam Akers, Laurie Boisclair, Mike Bonnoit, Cathy Bresko, Terri DeAngelis, Anne Dorward, Sharon Feldstein, Betsy Fields, Mary Grace Friesen, Christ Fitz, Lora Jollis, Connie Koppenhafer, Nancy Lougheed, Judy Miller, Sharon Norris, John Oliver, Katy Ping, Robin Smith, Dru Stockwell, Maggie Stone, John Stratman, Lee Ann Wilton, and Paul Zinnecker..
The Stephen Ministry group is a part of Pastor Pat’s CFAM (Caring for All Members) Ministries and is under her over-all supervision.
The current lay Stephen Leaders are: Anne Miller, Mary Naylor, Sue Greene, and Karen Eller.
In addition to Pastor Pat, any one of these leaders would welcome the opportunity to speak with you about Stephen Ministry!